All from great writing, great radio, great film, and fun little things caught in passing. 

"The best thing you can possibly do with your life is to tackle the motherfucking shit out of it"   — Cheryl Strayed

“Great stories happen to those who can tell them.” — Ira Glass

"Wherever you are - be all there"  — Jim Elliot

"The moment you rigidly follow a plan set in your youth, you lock yourself into a position, and the times will ruthlessly pass you by." - Robert Greene

"Wanting to fuck somebody over and over for the rest of your life isn't love. Wanting to be with somebody for the rest of your life no matter how many times life fucks you both over and over though? Could be." —  Anon

"Any job that confers automatic status and money on you comes with your soul as the price" - Tucker Max

"The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off" - Gloria Steinem

"In life as in dance, grace glides on blistered feet"  —  Alice Abrams

"Where you invest your love, you invest your life"  —  Mumford & Sons

"The minute you choose to do want you really want to do, it's a different kind of life" - Buckminster Fuller

"Create fiercly, love well, and die empty" —  Todd Henry

"All life really boils down to, for humans, are the relationships with the people you love and the things you do that matter to other people.” — Tucker Max

“What we don’t realize is that there is a fine art of non-fuck-giving. People aren’t just born not giving a fuck. In fact, we’re born giving way too many fucks. Ever watch a kid cry his eyes out because his hat is the wrong shade of blue? Exactly. Fuck that kid.” — Mark Manson

"Bars and clubs are really unnatural, intimidating, frustrating environments for both sexes. And it goes against everything in human biology. There’s no animal that would construct a bar or a club as its mating market. Except for humans.

Basically only super-confident extroverts with loud voices can do well. Most guys find clubs too noisy to talk in, so you can’t really display anything other than physical attractiveness, signals of wealth, signals of very high confidence and charisma. You’re competing with a lot of other guys in a crowded, chaotic environment. There’s always an undercurrent of potential violence and conflict. The women are typically tipsy, they’re irritable about being hit on by a bunch of guys, and they can’t really tell one guy from another. They’re overwhelmed by choice."

- Geoffrey Miller, PHD

“Everybody wonders if they’re fat and nobody wonders if they’re boring.” — Alex Baze

“The more effort you put into trying to appear impressive to others, the less impressive you feel inside — because you feel like a fraud” — David Foster Wallace

“When we are green, still half-created, we believe that our dreams are rights, that the world is disposed to act in our best interests, and that falling and dying are for quitters. We live on the innocent and monstrous assurance that we alone, of all the people ever born, have a special arrangement whereby we will be allowed to stay green forever.”  — Tobias Wolff, This Boy's Life

“It’s all material” — Robert Greene

"You become what you envision yourself being" — Lewis Howes

“It can have meaning if it changes you for the better.”  — Viktor Frankl

"Ernest Hemingway once wrote "The world is a fine place and worth fighting for". I agree with the second part" — Se7en

“Well, it’s a good life and a good world, all said and done, if you don’t weaken.” —  Alan Sillitoe, Saturday Night and Sunday Morning

"My goal in life is to have every girl in the world have at least a 20% crush on me at all times" —  Anon

“I don’t want someone to enrich my life, I want someone to reassure me that my shitty life is adequate”  — Dom Mazzetti

"I'm speaking at a big tech company about my books. And right now, it seems so fucking unimportant, all this writing, all this time spent hunched over a glowing screen, all this convincing myself that any of it matters. People are what matter, not things" —  Neil Strauss [After his girlfriend finds out he cheated on her], The Truth

“I wish there was a way to know you’re in the ‘good old days’ before you’ve actually left them”  — Andy Bernard, The Office

“You have to get your ass kicked to kick ass” — Anon

“Every guy has issues — that doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human. Facing and dealing with your shit is what makes you a man.”  — Tucker Max

""Guys don't shoot themselves in the heart," Henry is telling me. "They shoot themselves in the head because they're trying to shut their brain up."" — Neil Strauss

“Ultimately, its up to us to solve our problems, even if we didn’t make them. What you should not do, I think, is worry about the opinion of anyone beyond your friends. You shouldn’t worry about prestige. Prestige is the opinion of the rest of the world. When you can ask the opinions of people whose judgement you respect, what does it add to consider the opinions of people you don’t even know?”  — Paul Graham

“If every trace of any single religion died out and nothing were passed on, it would never be created exactly that way again. There might be some other nonsense in its place, but not that exact nonsense. If all of science were wiped out, it would still be true and someone would find a way to figure it all out again.”  — Penn Jillette

"What you resist, persists" — Chris Lee

“The maxim of the middlemind: the culture you know the least has all the answers.” — The Last Psychiatrist

"Our minds are all we have. They are all we have ever had. And they are all we can offer others. This might not be obvious, especially when there are aspects of your life that seem in need of improvement — when your goals are unrealized, or you are struggling to find a career, or you have relationships that need repariing. But it's the truth. Every experience you have ever had has been shaped by your mind. Every relationship is as good or as bad as it is because of the minds involved. If you are perpetually angry, depressed, confused, and unloving, or your attention is elsewhere, it won't matter how successful you become or who is in your life — you won't enjoy any of it." — Sam Harris

"If Gucci Mane can release 3 albums from prison, you can text me back" — Anon

“Governments don’t want a population capable of critical thinking, they want obedient workers, people just smart enough to run the machines and just dumb enough to passively accept their situation.You have no choice. You have owners. They own you. They own everything. They own all the important land. They own, and control the corporations. They’ve long since bought, and paid for the Senate, the Congress, the state houses, the city halls, they got the judges in their back pockets and they own all the big media companies, so they control just about all of the news and information you get to hear.” — George Carlin

"Naomi laughs as Charles walks off, indignant. It's the first music I've heard since checking in [to rehab]. The laughter of a woman is a high unto itself" — Neil Strauss

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”  — Socrates



“The devil doesn’t come dressed in a red cape and pointy horns. He comes as everything you’ve ever wished for” — Tucker Max

“Sometimes life leaves a hundred-dollar bill on your dresser, and you don’t realize until later it’s because it fucked you.” — James Halpern

“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” —Ralph Emerson

“Even if you are in a minority of one, the truth is still the truth” — Mahatma Gandhi

“Books to me represent knowledge being power and knowledge being effectiveness. And if you know something, it doesn’t matter what they take from you — they can’t take that away from you” — Tucker Max

“It is one thing to study war and another to live the warrior’s life.” — Telamond of Arcadia

“Bliss — a-second-by-second joy and gratitude at the gift of being alive, conscious — lies on the other side of crushing, crushing boredom. Pay close attention to the most tedious thing you can find (Tax Returns, Televised Golf) and, in waves, a boredom like you’ve never known will wash over you and just about kill you. Ride these out, and it’s like stepping from black and white into color.” — David Foster Wallace

“Clear eyes, full hearts, can’t lose” — Friday Night Lights

“[For the media,] the question, “Is it real?” is less important than, “Is it newsworthy?” — Daniel J. Boorstin

“It isn’t about being an asshole. It’s about not being a little bitch” — John Romaniello

“Every guy on that bus, from Schwartz down to little Loondorf, had grown up dreaming of becoming a professional athlete. Even when you realized you’d never make it, you didn’t relinquish the dream, not deep down. And here was Henry, living it out. He alone was headed where they each, in the privacy of their backyard imaginations, had spent the better part of their boyhoods: a major-league diamond. Schwartz, for his part, had vowed long ago not to become one of those pathetic ex-jocks who considered high school and college the best days of their lives. Life was long, unless you died, and he didn’t intend to spend the next sixty years talking about the last twenty-two.” — Chad Harbach, The Art of Fielding

“We all have stories that we tell ourselves about what our lives are — and those stories are always wrong.” — Shawn Coyne

“I’m smart enough to know that being smart is not enough” — @donni

“There are two types of people. There are those that spend their whole lives in, and for, “the scene”. They want to see and be seen. They want to gossip and snicker. They want to get invited. They want to sound smart, look hip, be cool. They want to show up at the right time, to the right party, wearing the right dress, dating the right person, saying the right things, to the right people, eating the right foods, working at the right company, etc. They are stuck in the Matrix. These are “scene” people.

Then there are real people.

Those who are in, but not of. Who navigate the choppy seas of this memetic storm, but who look down on a compass that points to True North. Who reflect deeply on what is valuable, what is meaningful, what is authentic.

Finding a real person is so refreshing. They look at you, not through you. They don’t need to exclude you to feel significant.” Francis Pedraza

“I went from staring at the same four walls for 21 years to seeing the whole world in just 12 months” — The Weeknd

“Early in my life, I had learned that if you want something, you had better make some noise.” — Malcolm X

“Just because your mind tells you that something is awful or evil or unplanned or otherwise negative doesn’t mean you have to agree. Just because other people say that something is hopeless or crazy or broken to pieces doesn’t mean it is. We decide what story to tell ourselves. Or whether we will tell one at all” — Ryan Holiday

“We have a saying in Marseilles: a man in no hurry gets nowhere fast. I have been in no hurry for eight years.” — Gregory David Roberts, Shantaram

“Learning is available at the library for free; under a tree with a dog-eared paperback; at a job with a boss who gives you responsibility and mentorship; while traveling; while leading a cause, movement, or charity; while writing a novel or composing a poem or crafting a song; while interning, apprenticing, or volunteering; while playing a sport or immersing yourself in a language; while starting a business; and now, while watching a TED talk or taking a Khan Academy class…” — Michael Ellsberg

“Great times are great softeners” — Ryan Holiday

“Prestige is like a powerful magnet that warps even your beliefs about what you enjoy. It causes you to work not on what you like, but what you’d like to like.” — Paul Graham

“Some people never go crazy, what truly horrible lives they must lead” — Charles Bukowski

“In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty” —- Ralph Emerson

“You are not your job, you’re not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You are not your fucking khakis.” — Chuck Palunhiuk, Fight Club

“The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” — Almost Famous

“Every man is a creature of the age in which he lives and few are able to raise themselves above the ideas of the time.” — Voltaire

“What makes someone an artist? I don’t think is has anything to do with a paintbrush. There are painters who follow the numbers, or paint billboards, or work in a small village in China, painting reproductions. These folks, while swell people, aren’t artists. On the other hand, Charlie Chaplin was an artist, beyond a doubt. So is Jonathan Ive, who designed the iPod. You can be an artist who works with oil paints or marble, sure. But there are artists who work with numbers, business models, and customer conversations. Art is about intent and communication, not substances.” — Seth Godin

“One has to kill a few of one’s natural selves to let the rest grow — a very painful slaughter of innocents.” —Henry Sidgwick

“We are a culture of people who’ve bought into the idea that if we stay busy enough, the truth of our lives won’t catch up with us.” — Dr. Brene Brown

“The advice of parents will tend to err on the side of money. It seems safe to say there are more undergrads who want to be novelists and whose parents want them to be doctors than who want to be doctors and whose parents want them to be novelists. The kids think their parents are “materialistic.” Not necessarily. All parents tend to be more conservative for their kids than they would for themselves, simply because, as parents, they share risks more than rewards. If your eight year old son decides to climb a tall tree, or your teenage daughter decides to date the local bad boy, you won’t get a share in the excitement, but if your son falls, or your daughter gets pregnant, you’ll have to deal with the consequences.” —- Paul Graham

“Life was never supposed to feel so serious or scary in the first place. The people who try to convince you that it has to be that way just aren’t very good at playing.” — Charlie Hoehn

“There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit at a typewriter and bleed” — Ernest Hemingway

“Choosing a spouse and choosing a career: the two great decisions for which society refuses to set up institutional guidance.” — Alain de Bottom

“The way forward is to learn to see every startup in any industry as a grand experiment.” — Eric Reis

“Your penis betrayed you, son. Made you think stupid. It won’t be the last time that happens.” — James Halpern’s Dad

“This is your life and it’s ending one moment at a time” — Chuck Palaniuk, Fight Club

“If you worship power, you will feel weak and afraid, needing ever more power over others to keep the fear at bay” — David Foster Wallace

“It’s a very difficult era in which to be a person, just a real, actual person, instead of a collection of personality traits selected from an endless Automat of characters.” — Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl

“Give the people contests they win by remembering the words to more popular songs or the names of state capitals or how much corn Iowa grew last year. Cram them full of noncombustible data, chock them so damned full of ‘facts’ they feel stuffed, but absolutely ‘brilliant’ with information. Then they’ll feel they’re thinking, they’ll get a sense of motion without moving. And they’ll be happy, because facts of that sort don’t change. Don’t give them any slippery stuff like philosophy or sociology to tie things up with. That way lies melancholy.” — Ray Bradbury, Fahrenheit 451

“Civilization is defined by what we forbid, more than what we permit.” — David Gregory Roberts, Shantaram

“When I get sick, I go to my doctor like everyone else. A doctor has powerful tools that may help me. Or those tools may hurt me, make me worse. I have to decide. It’s my life. It’s my responsibility.” — Michael Crichton

“I went to college for four years” — Kim Kardashian

“People don’t realize how a man’s whole life can be changed by one book.” — Malcolm X

“Yes, you have cancer. Yes, your kids are on drugs. Yes, there is an elephant outside your tent. Now the question becomes, What are you going to do about it? Subsequent emotions may not be pleasant, but the hysteria stops. Hysteria accompanies an unwillingness to look at what is really going on; it promotes an unwillingness to look. We feel we are afraid to look, when actually it is not-looking that makes us afraid. The minute we look, we cease being afraid.” — Michael Crichton

“Dreams are just furniture, Jack said, like words you keep pushing around till they fit the room somehow” —Dorothy Livesay

“Do a good job at whatever you’re doing, even if you don’t like it. Then at least you’ll know you’re not using dissatisfaction as an excuse for being lazy. Perhaps more importantly, you’ll get into the habit of doing things well.” — Paul Graham

“Play is a state of mind – it’s a way to approach the world. Whether your world is a frightening prison or a loving playground is entirely up to you” — Charlie Hoehn

“A flawed [education and certification] system isn’t better than no system at all, it is worse than no system at all, because at least with no system we are forced to be accountable to ourselves for our education. “Not everyone will be so dedicated.” Correct, but now those same undedicated people get an official blessing of their ignorance. Who doesn’t walk out of even this ridiculously meaningless exam not feeling smart, accomplished, up to date? And who would dare, after passing, to criticize the exam that warmed his ego?” — The Last Psychiatrist

“We don’t really want things. We want the feelings we think those things will give us.” — Garry Tan

“Never let the guy with the broom decide how many elephants can be in the parade.” — Merlin Mann

“We are the stories we tell ourselves” — Joan Didion

“The experience of climbing Kilimanjaro affected me so powerfully that, for a long time afterward, if I caught myself saying, “I’m not a person who likes to do that activity, eat that food, listen to that music,” I would automatically go out and do what I imagined I didn’t like. Generally I found I was wrong about myself — I liked what I thought I wouldn’t like. And even if I didn’t like the particular experience, I learned I liked having new experiences.” — Michael Crichton

“All that is gold does not glitter; Not all those who wander are lost” — J.R.R. Tolkien

“The price of being a sheep is boredom. The price of being a wolf is loneliness. Choose one or the other with great care.” — Hugh McLeod

“Problems are a chance for us to do our best” — Duke Ellington